I have been thinking about success quite often lately. What kind of success do you want for yourself or your children. What does it mean for me, and with regards to my children?
What does it mean for me, and with regards to my children?
For me first and foremost it is that I am happy and satisfied in my life.
That feels like success to me. Of course, I want to make enough money to live well, but I think money will not make me happy, it enhances my happiness. I can have or make tons of money in a dissatisfying job. I don’t think I would want that. And I would not want that for my children.
I can have or make tons of money in a dissatisfying job. I don’t think I would want that. And I would not want that for my children.
I can have or make tons of money in a dissatisfying job. I don’t think I would want that. And I would not want that for my children.
So what is my vision of success for them? Is success about material things or emotional things?
Right now success is, if my kids are happy and fulfilled in what they do.
But what does that mean exactly?
- That they can survive in this world, are responsible, and can weather the storm?
- That they can fend for and stand up for themselves?
- That they can set clear boundaries and can take care of themselves?
- That they give their best (whatever that is for them)?
- That they can go to bed at night with a good conscience and be proud of themselves?
- That they can forgive themselves and be gentle with themselves and others with generosity and love?
- That they know how to behave in public, smile, shake hands, contribute, and be helpful?
- That they can find their reset button?
- All of the above.
When they are young, I want to focus on the emotional first and trust that the other will come. Then, I want for them that they know how to communicate and interact. That they get what it means to be responsible and resilient. That they know how to walk
That they get what it means to be responsible and resilient. That they know how to walk
Then, I want for them that they know how to communicate and interact. That they get what it means to be responsible and resilient. That they know how to walk through the world, fend for themselves, and fight for what is important for them.
That they know how to walk through the world, fend for themselves, and fight for what is important for them.
Through that, they will get to the monetary success. Do you agree?
So, is success about material things or emotional or mental things?
I would say all ☺. Having money to eat, pay the rent, and the bills will take care of our emotional freedom, but how much of that do we need?
If I feel a desire for my child to be important or make a lot of money, to “be” someone in the world, I ask myself, ‘Is it about my child or is it about me?
It is all about me! I doubt that a young child wants to be a politician or doctor or well-known lawyer. In my house, my children want to be singers or famous athletes, not doctors or lawyers…
How will it make me feel when my child will arrive at their own vision for success? Will they ever? And what if they don’t?
How often will I redefine my own vision for my own success?
And the journey continues!